Phantom feelings: are they real?

Phantom feelings exist I swear.  There are countless studies and cases in Ancient and Modern medicine that show that.  Some people will feel more than others.  The most common example is simply called phantom limb.  This happens when a person gets a limp amputated but they still “feel” that limb there.

So it is possible to “feel” things after trauma has occurred.  There is no limit to what can be felt and for how long but the truth is the real win (at least in my book) is to minimize it but acknowledge it at the same time.

Huh? Contradictory yes.  But that is the way that the human mind works sometimes.

You see the human mind will constantly think that there is a limb there if you believe that the limb is still there.  Not only that if there was nerve damage the body will still “feel” the limb there and this causes the brain to think that there is a limb there even if there is not one.

The same thing happens with trauma. If you are forced to believe that the people that have caused you harm are still there in your life then you will still feel those people there.

Let’s take me as an example. In the last 15-20 years I have done the work to feel my body to have more positive experience but there are people in my life that insist on making me marry one of the men or women that raped me or are similar to the people that raped me because those people believe that I can be “taught” to love the people that raped me, or are similar to those that raped me.  Now this has caused me secondary trauma because those people now believe that they own my body, even though I have NOT EVER INDICATED I WANT TO SEE OR SPEAK TO THEM, but it has been regularly forced back into my life.  Those people were promised that I can be ‘taught’ to love them and become more generous and self–less all to be done against my will.

Here is the thing, I would rather die again rather than marry or be with people that remind of my rapists because my body has been abused for so long I no longer have menstrual cycles, even though those people believe they can make my body have menstrual cycles and carry a child for someone that I AGAIN DID NOT AGREE TO HAVE THEIR CHILD.

So now, when things get a certain way, I will start to feel all those hands on me and the raping just because some people thought it would be good for me to marry someone that reminds me of my rapists.

Are those people actually in my life? NO

Are they stalking, ghosting, and interfering in my life with the intention to harm me? YES

Will the cops do anything? NO

So yes I still get phantom pains and yes those phantom pains are real.